Adoption FAQ
Who are you working with to adopt?
We are working with Christian Adoption Consultants (CAC). Our consultant, Susan, is our right-hand partner and has so much experience with adoption and helps us every step of the way! CAC works with multiple agencies in adoption-friendly states in the U.S. After we signed with CAC, we became home-study approved with a licensed social worker. Our approved home study is sent to the adoption agencies we are working with to show that we are certified to become parents.
How old will your baby be?
We are pursuing a newborn-infant adoption!
When will your baby arrive?
The average wait time with CAC is 6-10 months after you are home-study approved. Some placements take longer, others are faster!
Will you have to travel to meet your baby?
Yes. We are pursuing a domestic adoption, which means we will travel within the U.S. to meet our baby.
Can we ask you about your adoption progress?
Absolutely! We are honored when people want to know about the process and learn about adoption, but we will keep some information private. Soon we will be adding a little one to our family and our job is to protect his or her privacy.
Will this be an open or closed adoption?
Closed adoptions are actually very rare today. Adoption professionals have found that there are so many benefits for both children and birth parents through open adoption. Ryan and I are pursuing either an open or semi-option adoption. Open adoption means communication is done directly with the birth family, while semi-option adoption means communication is done indirectly with the birth family through the adoption agency. In some cases, semi-open adoptions can change into open adoptions as relationships grow and develop over time. Click here to read more about open adoption.
Can we visit you after you bring your baby home?
Yes, absolutely! We can’t wait for others to meet our baby, but know that the visiting timeframe might look different than what you may typically see with a biological child.
Bonding with our baby will be very important to Ryan and I, as our baby won’t be growing in my belly! Our baby will need to learn our voices, scents and that we are their protectors since they didn’t meet us until they were outside of the womb. To accomplish this, we will need to spend a lot of quality time holding, cuddling and loving on our baby one-on-one to connect and bond. We don’t know how long this may take, but we will most likely limit visitors until we feel comfortable with the bond we have formed. Reach out to us if you'd like to come visit and we will keep you updated!
How has this journey changed you?
God has taught us so much and matured us through this process. Ultimately, we are reminded daily that we are not in control. We may have plans for our lives, but have learned that God's plan is bigger and better. We know that with adoption there are still no guarantees, and ultimately we trust God with what He has planned for us. It's only through God's strength and grace that we have been able to keep moving forward.
We’ve learned how valuable our marriage is. We know that the best gift we can give our future children is to love each other, and have a strong relationship. We’re thankful that this journey has shown us how to love and communicate with each other in ways that we would have not experienced without the circumstances we have faced.
We’ve learned that infertility doesn’t diminish the excitement of adoption, nor does adoption wash away the brokenness of infertility. If opening up about our journey provides hope and encouragement to one hurting family, it’s worth it to us.
Ryan and I have made mistakes during this journey. We forget the things that we’ve learned daily and will be the first to say we’re not perfect. We continue to learn about adoption and are by no means experts, but we are working daily to learn more and more.
How can we help you?
1) Pray. Please pray for our future baby, that they would be healthy and protected and that God would lead us to him or her.
Please pray for our child’s biological family. Our child’s birth mom will be an important woman in our lives. Pray that she would be protected and give her strength as she makes the brave and courageous decision to make an adoption plan for her child.
Pray for peace, patience, and wisdom for us, for Ryan and I to keep following God’s plan. It’s always been our prayer that God would close the door if something wasn’t from Him and to open the doors if we should walk through them. We would be honored if you’d pray that for us as well.
2) Learn about adoption! The more we learn about adoption, the more excited we become! But unfortunately, there are so many misconceptions about adoption. Here are two great resources that have helped us learned more about adoption:
Please click here to watch a great (and short) informative video by BraveLove to clear up common myths about adoption.
Click here to learn more about positive adoption language that honors all involved in adoption.
We are working with Christian Adoption Consultants (CAC). Our consultant, Susan, is our right-hand partner and has so much experience with adoption and helps us every step of the way! CAC works with multiple agencies in adoption-friendly states in the U.S. After we signed with CAC, we became home-study approved with a licensed social worker. Our approved home study is sent to the adoption agencies we are working with to show that we are certified to become parents.
How old will your baby be?
We are pursuing a newborn-infant adoption!
When will your baby arrive?
The average wait time with CAC is 6-10 months after you are home-study approved. Some placements take longer, others are faster!
Will you have to travel to meet your baby?
Yes. We are pursuing a domestic adoption, which means we will travel within the U.S. to meet our baby.
Can we ask you about your adoption progress?
Absolutely! We are honored when people want to know about the process and learn about adoption, but we will keep some information private. Soon we will be adding a little one to our family and our job is to protect his or her privacy.
Will this be an open or closed adoption?
Closed adoptions are actually very rare today. Adoption professionals have found that there are so many benefits for both children and birth parents through open adoption. Ryan and I are pursuing either an open or semi-option adoption. Open adoption means communication is done directly with the birth family, while semi-option adoption means communication is done indirectly with the birth family through the adoption agency. In some cases, semi-open adoptions can change into open adoptions as relationships grow and develop over time. Click here to read more about open adoption.
Can we visit you after you bring your baby home?
Yes, absolutely! We can’t wait for others to meet our baby, but know that the visiting timeframe might look different than what you may typically see with a biological child.
Bonding with our baby will be very important to Ryan and I, as our baby won’t be growing in my belly! Our baby will need to learn our voices, scents and that we are their protectors since they didn’t meet us until they were outside of the womb. To accomplish this, we will need to spend a lot of quality time holding, cuddling and loving on our baby one-on-one to connect and bond. We don’t know how long this may take, but we will most likely limit visitors until we feel comfortable with the bond we have formed. Reach out to us if you'd like to come visit and we will keep you updated!
How has this journey changed you?
God has taught us so much and matured us through this process. Ultimately, we are reminded daily that we are not in control. We may have plans for our lives, but have learned that God's plan is bigger and better. We know that with adoption there are still no guarantees, and ultimately we trust God with what He has planned for us. It's only through God's strength and grace that we have been able to keep moving forward.
We’ve learned how valuable our marriage is. We know that the best gift we can give our future children is to love each other, and have a strong relationship. We’re thankful that this journey has shown us how to love and communicate with each other in ways that we would have not experienced without the circumstances we have faced.
We’ve learned that infertility doesn’t diminish the excitement of adoption, nor does adoption wash away the brokenness of infertility. If opening up about our journey provides hope and encouragement to one hurting family, it’s worth it to us.
Ryan and I have made mistakes during this journey. We forget the things that we’ve learned daily and will be the first to say we’re not perfect. We continue to learn about adoption and are by no means experts, but we are working daily to learn more and more.
How can we help you?
1) Pray. Please pray for our future baby, that they would be healthy and protected and that God would lead us to him or her.
Please pray for our child’s biological family. Our child’s birth mom will be an important woman in our lives. Pray that she would be protected and give her strength as she makes the brave and courageous decision to make an adoption plan for her child.
Pray for peace, patience, and wisdom for us, for Ryan and I to keep following God’s plan. It’s always been our prayer that God would close the door if something wasn’t from Him and to open the doors if we should walk through them. We would be honored if you’d pray that for us as well.
2) Learn about adoption! The more we learn about adoption, the more excited we become! But unfortunately, there are so many misconceptions about adoption. Here are two great resources that have helped us learned more about adoption:
Please click here to watch a great (and short) informative video by BraveLove to clear up common myths about adoption.
Click here to learn more about positive adoption language that honors all involved in adoption.